Dear friends,
Earlier this month, the Women's Caring Program heard from Kelly Rossman-McKinney, CEO of Truscott Rossman, one of Michigan's premier public relations firms. Today, we hear from Tiffany Dowling, publisher of Capital Area Women's LifeStyle Magazine and chief conversation starter of the firm she founded, Motion Marketing & Media.
What do these two women have in common? Well, both are based in Lansing, MI; both are independent businesswomen, at the top of their game, leading their wildly successful businesses; and both are respected businesswomen who give back to their community in spades. But you know what else they have in common? As young women, they both faced tremendous challenges - as so many of us did and still do - starting at the bottom of the ladder, while figuring out how to best care for their children while also needing to work. And, perhaps not so coincidentally, both have been major supporters of ChildCare Commitment over the years.
Thank you, Tiffany and Kelly, for sharing your stories with us. So many of us have been where you have been; many of us are still there. The Women's Caring Program champions the quality care and education for children ages 0-5 because we want to embrace, if only through a scholarship, the women and families who are currently going through challenges similar to Tiffany and Kelly - challenges that can be overcome by the helping hand that ChildCare Commitment provides.
Thank you, girlfriends -- and guyfriends -- everywhere, for your kind and compassionate support this holiday season!
Maureen McNulty Saxton
WCP Board Member

Some people say that life doesn't give you more than you can handle. I would agree. However, I've certainly been tested.
It all started for me in college. As we all know, college is a place for learning and boy, did I receive an education. Although, I ended up with a degree in journalism and public relations the real knowledge came from life experiences.
When you least expect it, circumstances can turn you upside down. One minute you're in class pontificating on how no one makes any money in the field of journalism and the next you're wondering how you'll actually be a reporter with a baby on the way. I was 21 years old and faced with some tough decisions. After a break-up with my boyfriend, I decided I could make it all work. But to be honest, I was extremely anxious about it.
At the time, I was going to school and doing pretty well. I had taken out student loans to pay for classes and was working as a part-time writer at the Public Information Office on campus, as well as waiting tables to make ends meet. Overall, I was doing all right. I certainly wasn't well off, but what college student is? There is nothing that makes you analyze your financial situation more than being a single mother-to-be. Even with its challenges, I was determined to make it all work.
Frankly, I had a lot of pressure on me. I'm from a family where I was going to be the very first college graduate; a badge I was very proud to wear. However, when my parents learned I was pregnant, they were convinced that their dreams of my education were over. Although I didn't know how I was going to keep my apartment, my two jobs, go to classes, do homework and ultimately figure out how to support my new baby, I was confident that I was going to do everything possible to see this commitment through.
I didn't realize at the time that so many policies and systems that adults had designed and implemented throughout our great state for decades would be so complicated and difficult to maneuver. Luckily, I did have support from my family and friends. Because of my earnings (next to nothing), I was eligible for various services. I signed up for food assistance and cash assistance and, of course, health insurance. I was thankful that the assistance was there. After all, I wasn't going to need it for very long. I would graduate from college in one year.
Throughout my pregnancy, I continued going to classes, showing up for my writing job and waiting tables. It wasn't easy. I don't know if it was the stress or morning sickness, but I was ill all the time ... morning, noon and night. When my bouncing baby boy arrived in March, that's when the real fun began.
It was in the middle of the semester and I had to have a cesarean section. Although I was supposed to have eight weeks off, I took two and a half and went back to school. I ended up very sick, but there was no time to waste. This little guy was going to need support and I was determined to take the best possible care of him.
Now that Kyle had arrived, I had to make sure he was taken care of when I continued classes and work. He was a great study buddy and frankly, I think that he helped me a ton because I read my textbooks out loud to him during his first year. And, it really helped my grades.
To help make ends meet, my good friend from high school moved in with me. I was going to Eastern and she was going to U of M. She graciously offered to set her classes at different times from mine to aid in the daycare situation and my parents drove back and forth from Detroit to help when they could. Paying for daycare, even with the State's help, would not have been feasible for me.
During my last semester of school, I opted to take 22 credits (yes, that's eight classes) in order to graduate and begin my career in journalism. With that much work and my son, I needed some additional financial support. Unfortunately, when I turned to the system, I was told that in order to get additional assistance I would need to either drop out of school or quit the writing job that would help me succeed after college. When I tried to explain that what they were saying was in direct conflict to my life goals and the ability to care for my son long term, it just didn't matter. I was left with no assistance and even more determination.
Needless to say, I made it through some very tough months. I kept the job. I stayed in class. And, I took care of my son. When I graduated from Eastern Michigan University, I was extremely proud. I knew that although it's difficult to maneuver through the system and sometimes it feels like you should give up, my perseverance paid off. My parents, who were thrilled with the accomplishment, threw me a huge graduation party. I think it was great. I didn't get to attend because I was simply sick from exhaustion. My son was at the party for me. And, although he can't remember that day or that event, I do.
Everyone is set on a journey and each step on a path makes us who we are today. I truly believe that the person I have become is because of all I went through. It wasn't easy but it was totally worth it.
Today, I have a wonderful family. I married my husband Pat when Kyle was 2. Pat and I later had a son, Zach, who is now 15. I own a marketing and advertising company, Motion Marketing & Media in Lansing, publish a women's magazine and co-host two radio shows. Today, I look back on that time and feel blessed to have had so many opportunities to see exactly what I was made of.
Tiffany Dowling is publisher of Capital Area Women's LifeStyle Magazine and chief conversation starter of the firm she founded, Motion Marketing & Media.